yes, is a pain. esp for big daughter. (mostly)
alot of kids who are being the first will always complain that their parents sides their siblings more than siding them. am i right?
srsly, i do agree to that. my parents is one of the example. -im the Big Daughter.
here are a few points that i heard from frens who are in the role of first kid :
*sis and bro or either one will have more attention than me.
*sis and bro or either one will have their regular pocket money.
*sis and bro or either one will have their say.
*sis and bro or either one will be able to get what they want once their mouth open.
*sis and bro or either one will not be in fault first.
*sis and bro or either one being bad, is of their big sis/bro example.
*sis and bro or either one was being protected more.
*sis and bro or either one can yell and create nonsense.hais... see how bad the first kid feel?
in those point, i have almost all of them in my life after my siblings are brought into my life.
im not here to blame that they are here to ruin my life. and neither am i here to say that they are bad or what so ever. my key point is "The Parents, The Pains"
*sis and bro or either one will have more attention than me.
for me, my siblings will always get the attention first when my parents are home from outside.
sometime im not home or im home, they didnt even notice my present. well fine.
when my sibling is sick, they will keep on asking and care about them, and will want to bring them to the doctor. for me, hais. im alone in the room, trying to cure myself with meds that was given to my siblings the time they went to see a doctor few days/weeks/months back ago. no one notice im sick even though i alr mention it to my Mother. is always frens come and concern about me first. and of cos my BF. my parents?! ok la, when im srsly ill and i cant bring myself to school, then they will notice and all they ask is, "got see doc anot? go see la." than, walk off. see, how sad it is right? one word NEGLECTED.
*sis and bro or either one will have their regular pocket money.
hummph!! this, i know i'd grow up. but im not like 21 years old. and of cos i dont have stable job that allow me to pay everything by myself. yes, im a part time tutor, i work. but do u know how much i earn only? less than $300/mnth. there's 30 days in a month. i cant even spent more than $10 in a day. whereby frens out there can have nice clothes, food and even things easily by paying money. be it cash or cards. all i do was to stand aside and ENVY! i know my dad do give me pocket money. but, maybe $10 for this week and 2 weeks later i then get another $10. how am i going to survive? i cant always lock myself at home right? i need to go out. yes, window shopping. but can transport fees to be like window shopping? dont have to pay? and FIY, im paying my own bills, transport, meals outside etc. i really fking miss the days when im in sec school. at least my Dad got to drive me to school daily and give me pocket money. $5/day. money is not the matters. all i want is yours attention!! again NEGLECTED
*sis and bro or either one will have their say.
when parents ask to do things for example, housework.
big daughter help me sweep the floor, than mop than wash the clothes and dry it after wash. arrange my rooms for me and "soon bian" the rest of the room.
if i said " huh, so many or i say wait." than,
" why are u so lazy? cant u just help us? you are old enough liao ok. next time married liao how? asking u do little things u complain here and there. 你要气死我是吗？"
hais... the radio(nags) starts.
but if...
small daughter or son can u PLEASE help me sweep the floor, than mop than wash the clothes and dry it after wash. arrange my rooms for me and "soon bian" the rest of the room？
they replied " huh, very tired leh me." or " so many! i do alone uh?" or "orh" (then nv do)
parents, " guai la, help mummy do ok. i come back buy nice food or wadsoever for u. u guai hohx." or just "kept quiet" or ＂ask jiejie(大姐) help u la. like that u wont need to do so much liao lo. " -.-"
UNFAIR
*sis and bro or either one will not be in fault first.
*sis and bro or either one being bad, is mine or the parents' faults.
alot of the adults will say this to the first kid, " you have to show good examples for your siblings!, they will follow you if you are doing things that are bad!"
i believe everyone are responsible for their own characteristic. if other is being bad, you dont have to follow. is all up to u on which way u are heading to. there's nothing to do with ur BIG SIS OR BRO OKAY!! no one is to be blame other than yourself. you bring the troubles to yourself or sometime to your love ones. who to blame? think about it.
well adults, " have you guys showing good examples too? pushing responsibility is a kind acts uh? i wonder? -.-""""
NONSENSE
in the 9 points, im in 5 of it. sad case...
i know my parent do loves me. but y are they treating me this way?
is a pain to me actually. or perhaps im immature like one of my cousin mention, who are the first kid in her family too. she encounter what i had and well both of us were sad about it. maybe we're still IMMATURE uh! telling ourselves that we're immature maybe could helps us to feel a lil much more better ba.安慰自己！
i know some 2nd kids or even the youngest encounter wad i had too. i know how u guys feel.. but well, mostly it happen to the first kid. the big bro or daughter. why do i say mostly to BIG Daughter? cos some adults will be so byers that they 重男轻女... some Big Son were actually a king to them. wow!! Envy leh... Big Daughter seldom can be thier queen or princess. but some other else which i dont wish to elaborate. cos is HURT!
......IS A PAIN TO BE THE FIRST KID.......
.......IS A PAIN TO BE A KID WHO GOT LIL ATTENTIONS FROM THEIR PARENTS.....
.......IS A PAIN TO BE TREATED UNFAIRLY AT HOME......
......IS ALL ABOUT PAIN.......
